Matchmaking | Ask Nanima.co.za?
The truth may hurt. We have to dig deep, get real and get to the bottom of it. If you think what I have to say is harsh, lucky for you, you haven’t met Patti Novak, she is even more straightforward. This advise is relevant to both genders.
Nanima’s 13 Reasons why she thinks you may be single:
1. You are too independent. You have your own house, car, you are self sufficient. Man find you intimidating. You want to compete with him. Man want to be heroes, knight in shining armours.
2. You have not resolved your problems in your past. If you are divorced or widowed you still carrying baggage around. You busy blaming, comparing and have not forgiven your ex.
3. You are looking for someone to fill a void in your life. You don’t love yourself, how do you expect someone to love you.
4. Islam forbids conventional dating. Muslim singles don’t have shariah compliant alternatives to find their soul mates.
5. You are lonely and desperate. The more desperate you are the more fatal it can become.
6. You waiting for your prince to be someone local that comes from the same gaam, village or who speaks the same language of your mother land.
7. If you have been married before, divorced, widowed and have children there is a stigma attached to you.
8. You don’t want to settle down, start a family. You are enjoying the single life partying and fooling around with no responsibility.
9. Your parents and the village don’t approve of your soul mate.
10. Marriages are arranged. If your family is living under a rock somewhere, don’t have many friends, your chances of finding a life partner is very slim. It’s not what you know, it’s who you know.
11. Madala reminded me about this one. You looking for Mr. Perfect or you think you too perfect and no one meets your standards. You have false expectations. You are a little delusional and waiting for your fairytale romance or Shah Rukh Khan.. Those type of men are only in the movies.. to much romantic comedies, to many mills and boons and to many bollywood dramas.
12. When a nice good marriage potential comes home, haaraw poiro, everyone loves him.. a real sweet boy.. gentleman.. the girl dismisses him because the “his like my brother”.. what’s that about.. if your mother did not give birth to him HE IS NOT YOUR BROTHER.. who are they looking for someone that is gonna be a rude.. these sweetie pies just get overlooked..
13. The youth are shy to use a matchmaking website.
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